You may have seen the trailer for the new Natalie Portman, Ashton Kutcher, and Kevin Kline movie entitled “No Strings Attached” that is being released to theaters this weekend. I do not plan on seeing this movie, so this short post may be completely off-base… but I sincerely doubt it. This movie will probably rake in well over $50 million from eager patrons in the coming weeks. Here is the short plot description provided at IMDB:

“A guy and girl try to keep their relationship strictly physical, but it’s not long before they learn that they want something more.”

Here are 3 other marketing slogans associated with “No Strings Attached”

  • Can two friends hook up without love getting in the way?
  • Welcome to the new world of relationships.
  • Can sex friends stay best friends?

Below is the movie trailer (there is much more commentary below the video):

Doesn’t that just break your heart and make you want to SCREAM? The trailer (and undoubtedly the movie) make the whole “friends with benefits” idea seem so nonchalant, commonplace, fun and casual. Sex and sensuality in the news and media is [unfortunately] not unique or special in any way. It is expected, blatant, and omnipresent. Our media and world will continue digressing into more crudeness. That is expected. The Bible predicts this.

I’m relatively young, and it frightens and appalls me to look at the evolution of what society has deemed “acceptable” between 1970 and 2011, much less a during a larger time span. In some twisted way, our society sees increased acceptance of vulgarity as positive “progress” and “acceptance”. I am definitely not advocating in any way for the crazy “Christian” that stands on a street corner with a SINNER sign shouting condescending judgment as folks walk by. That response is not in line with Jesus’ commission. However, we definitely need to protect our families while standing firm on and instructing them in God’s Truth.

This is why the role and responsibility of spiritual leader in the home is so incredibly important, frightening, and heavy.

Media like this definitely perpetually desensitizes us and tweaks upcoming generations of children.  This also proliferates grotesque social and sexual expectations. It breaks my heart that as we look around, in many ways this is the “new world of relationships”.

As a Christian, it is always important to stand guard against and be aware of the perversion in the world around us. It ultimately just builds a stronger case for the eternal truths of God’s glorious design, and why we should praise, learn about, and be in awe of it. He omnisciently and intentionally designed man, woman, and both the ideas and realities of “relationship”. It also makes me want to protect my heart and family even more. All this brings me to my pain in seeing the movie trailer. We should run to Truth (the Bible, Church, and prayer).

“Strictly Physical” with “No Strings Attached”??!!

“A guy and a girl try to keep their relationship strictly physical”… with the title No Strings Attached. Seriously… how can any human believe this as possibility?! In what universe would taking part in the most intimate act a woman and man can experience this side of eternity exist with “No Strings Attached”? Sex is the most powerful physical bonding that exists in the creation of humanity; emotions and attachment are inevitable. Believe it or not, it was created that way intentionally by a loving and incredible Creator as a method for deeply bonding man and woman.

The Bible teaches truth in this:

20 He gave names to all the livestock, all the birds of the sky, and all the wild animals. But still there was no helper just right for him.

21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the Lord God took out one of the man’s ribs and closed up the opening. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man.

23 “At last!” the man exclaimed. “This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh! She will be called ‘woman,’ because she was taken from ‘man.’” Genesis 2:20-23

This incredibly simplistic truth is defined in both the Old and New Testaments:

24 This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one. Genesis 2:24


6 But ‘God made them male and female’ from the beginning of creation. 7 ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, 8 and the two are united into one.’ Since they are no longer two but one, 9 let no one split apart what God has joined together.” Mark 10:6-9

God begs and commands our obedience to his perfect design. He designed us… he knows how we are intended to function.

18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. 1 Corinthians 6:18

The Perfect Design of Perfect Sex

Breathe for a second, empty your mind, and join me in the vision for God’s design of sex…

Imagine the joy of the perfect sexual union between man and woman…

A man and woman physically and sexually drawn to each other save themselves for marriage. Both are deeply, passionately, spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and romantically drawn to the other. While dating, they carefully chose not to touch each other’s bodies in any way. They fled from sexual temptation. They resisted all natural urges.

On the wedding night, they get to the bedroom curious… giddy… excited… nervous… anxious… and aroused.

  • Neither has been exposed to sexuality promoted by the media with lofty performance expectations or has even seen a sexual scene in a PG-13 movie.
  • Neither has viewed pornography.
  • Neither has seen someone of the opposite gender nude, much less touched or explored a body.
  • Neither have previous sexual encounters with which to compare themselves nor their new spouse.
  • Neither has felt any type of sexual pleasure alone.
  • No one in the world will have ever seen or will ever see either of them nude. They are unique and special for and to each other.

No baggage. No pain. No insecurities.  No comparisons. No bad memories. No expectations.

Two pure people… enjoying and exploring each other for the first time and throughout rest of their lives.

25 Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame. Genesis 2:25

Wow. That is overwhelming and breathtaking in a fantastic way.

The purity and beauty of that picture honestly brings tears to my eyes.

Perhaps that ideal scenario is essentially impossible… but how beautiful is that design? How amazing would it be to get as close to that design as possible, while living in a fallen world?

Discussion Questions

  1. How are you inviting “sexual immorality” into your marriage and/or family?
  2. How are you or your spouse becoming desensitized to sexual sin, and what should you do to “flee”?
  3. What instruction does scripture provide about these pursuits?